Some of y'all are gonna catch feelings but y'all need to understand something..
In my opinion taking back a cheater is a big no no. Yes people make mistakes but one thing I don't fuck with in a relationship is cheating. And don't give me that "but I love him/her" shit either. If they cared enough, they wouldn't have done it. Once you cheat on me, I'm out.
NOW, if you do end up taking a cheater back, there are a few key things you need to keep in mind:
• Once you take them back, your trust in them won't be 100%, and to me that's not a real relationship.
• You chose to take them back, so you CANNOT use their cheating against them. You took them back knowing they've cheated on you, which means you've accepted it and moved on. So don't give them a hard time with your accusations and what not because they've already proved to you that they can't be trusted yet you made that conscious decision to take them back.
Don't sit there and continuously tell them how much they've hurt you and how wrong they did you because, once again, as I said before, you chose to take them back knowing all of that in the first place.
• If you choose to take them back, allow them to regain your trust.
• Not saying that this is always the case but, if they've broken your trust once, don't be so shocked and angry that they do it again. Once again, refer to my second point.
• Don't expect them/feel like they owe you something. A lot of people have this idea that because someone cheated on them, and that they've taken them back, that person owes them something.. as if they're forever indebted to them. No. That is not the case. They don't owe you anything, except maybe having to regain your trust. Once again, refer back to point #2.
That's it for now though. This is such a huge topic, so stay tuned for more to come..
